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Today we like to talk about self-love. We ain’t taking about the dictionary definition of self-love– caring about the well-being and happiness of one’s own. We talking about “claiming your badass” self-love.
I have a tendency to shrink when I am asked about yours truly. I feel uncomfortable talking about myself despite my mother always saying, “Girl, stop! You don’t have a problem talking about yourself.”
But, I do.
At a job interview, I tend to leave out at least half of my experiences because I don’t want to come across like I am bragging. The truth is, I have had some awesome jobs over the years no matter how short lived they may have been. I had my first job the summer before 8th grade at a production company run by a distant family relative and have been working ever since in various fields. I am a sophomore in college and my resume is packed tight and yet I struggle with real talk about my amazingness.
Recently, I was thinking, do people actually care about what I have to say? Would they want to read about my experiences, the most bomb ass food I just had, the cutest choker I just bought that had me feel myself just a little too much?
The truth is people will want to read the blog because they want to know that they are not alone. That whatever they feel, want to know, or desire, someone out there is going through it too. It’s okay to be vulnerable and to commiserate with the vulnerable. It makes you more open to the world and you come out knowing a little more than you went in knowing.
So when you want to play small as you walk into a job interview or play small as you simply walk into a big room, know that you got too much badass to fit into some fear-shrunk jeans. I’ve worn those jeans and its not a good look for me —or us. I’m just sayin.
-Peace, love & Black Beans